Hello there.
Well TGIF....but not really haha. Friday's tend to suck for me....wanna know why?
Because my stupid online class...that's why. I usually tend to forget about it til fridays, and then i start on it. And btw...its horrible lol.
But anyways...first week back from spring break...was pretty much just like any other week...don't know why i was making such a big deal about it lol. but whatever.
Anything new with you?
Comments?
You should lol.
So here's whats up.
Yesterday's post was kind random...actually really random and kinda fast paced because i was working lol.
I didn't get to say much, so I'm taking today's post to make up.
Here's whats up.
I'm ticked.
Wanna know why?
Sure you do lol
Well....I wont go into great detail about the matter, but I will give you some info k.
Here goes.
This week...
Pretty much found out that the MAN-uel doesn't apply to all guys lol. I had a really good friend, probably my best friend you could say, choose a damn skank over his own friend. Now this isn't me, just saying lol, but back to the matter at hand. This person went and hooked up with one of our fellow friend's ex. recent ex too. like a month? maybe less? And just so you know, we were all a pretty tight knit group of friends. like. yeah. pretty much. So this guy went and did that and didnt bother to tell my other friend about it. I havent even talked to him! wtf?! I mean...i thought i was his best friend and all...i figured he would at least let me know, but no...he didnt. And has ignored me for the past week. And you know what i have to say? F you! Now i realize this is quite dramatic and i probably sound homo or something, but im not lol. really.
So that's what's up.
Pretty lame dont ya think?
Sure sucks to lose a really close friend over some random skank, who in fact isnt all that great. like....yeah. i hate her. but whatever. That's girls and guys these days.
If i could t-bag them, i would. and. i would do the jump hump all over them.
Feedback?
You really should give me some.
Just so i know whether i should be this irate over this problem.
Thanks.
Hope to get some comments.
If not, its cool...i guess lol.
Til the next post.
Peace.
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What if he told that bitch he didn't want nothin to do with her, because he was afraid to lose his friends.. would you forgive him? because i've done that before and i felt pretty shitty. so i told her to back off, and to go find someone else to push around. she was pissed but thats how it always goes right? lol. anyways i admitted that i was wrong and they were right and i apollogized and they forgave me. so would y'all do the same for this dude?
ReplyDeleteidk just depends on if he really means it...as far as i can tell, he could give a crap less about us right now. He gets "whipped easily" at least that's how i see it...i mean right now he's completely avoiding us for her. who knows, i guess time will just tell. but whatever, i'm still glad i have a couple good genuine friends :)
ReplyDeletehave you tried to confront him about it? maybe confronting him about it would make him realize that what he is doing is wrong and be more than willing to do something about it..
ReplyDeleteyes. i did try confronting him. thus the ignored texts and etc...
ReplyDeleteWhere did you get this MAN-uel from? According to the rules of MAN-Law, if the dude dumps the chick, she can't be touched for 6 days- then she's back on the market. If she dumps him, it's a 6 month waiting period. That's not the point I'm trying to make though. If you're so worried about him "ignoring you" and such, why don't you actually call him up instead of a lame-ass text. Better yet, pay him a visit. Instead of getting pissed at him for what he did and what you've heard from other people and letting your emotions control your thoughts, go talk to the dude. Talk about the situation and MEND THE FRIENDSHIP.
ReplyDeleteYou certainly don't have to agree with what I'm telling you or even give two shits, it's your choice. In my experience, it's best to go directly to the source and find out first hand what's going on. That doesn't mean "text and see if he responds." He could be SUPER SUPER busy doing other things like work, school, etc that he just doesn't have time to respond to a text. Give him a phone call or pay him a visit. THOSE are the gestures that carry more weight- always have, always will. Personally, i think that in situations, texting to find stuff out is the absolute WORST thing you can do. All that aside though, I promise you, that if you put forth the effort to find out the facts from him directly, I bet the whole situation would be different. Who knows, maybe the friendship could be reinstated. It sounds like ya'll used to be tight.
P.s. If a couple aren't dating anymore, a guy should feel free to make a move on her, whether it be a simple hug, kiss, make out, etc. I don't think he shouldn't have to go ask her ex "hey, since ya'll aren't dating anymore, can I go take her and..............?" Let the dude do what he feels in his mind. Sure it'd be a kindness to talk to his other friends afterwards, but if you're friends with her ex, maybe he felt it uncomfortable to discuss the whole thing with you in front of her ex because you didn't give him a chance for some "bro-time." Think about it.
I tried calling him...3 times!
ReplyDeleteAnd what the hell? The guy can make a move on any ex? At anytime? That's bull. Especially in this situation. Where he himself just got out a relationship 2 weeks ago. She's a desperate whore, and he's being dumb and is rebounding. The whole situation is already f'd. And to add to this, my friend dated her for 16 months. That makes the whole thing crazy. Because how the hell do you not expect us to not get mad about it? It's complete crap.
And
to make my point even more so,
last year when this guy got dumped by his gf, he was bummed too. Like any guy. So then his ex tried getting with me and stuff, and I told him about it. He told me to go after her. Me and her started talking, but nothing much. So then I tell my friend and I tell him if anything were to happen between me and her that I would tell him. Guess what? He got all irate at me for that!! WTF?! So I dropped things with her because I didn't wanna lose my friendship with him...
So now tell me...should I still not be upset at him?
I have every right to be. And so do my other friends. Enough said about this.
Like I said this is all just really messed up.
Okay, so you called him 3 times. Now it's time to go pay him a visit. In person. By yourself. No one else. By yourself. You be a mature adult about it, do not raise your voice, do not speak out because of your emotions. Ask him what's going on. Actually put forth some effort into trying to repair the friendship- that is if you want to. In other words, get some hair on your peaches and talk to him- IN PERSON. Closure is always the best thing. I don't give a rat's ass if you hate him to the ends of the earth now.
ReplyDeleteBy the way, why should a friend not go after an ex? Like I implied earlier. THEY'RE NOT TOGETHER ANYMORE!!! I'm assuming he dumped her. He did it. He ended it. If he didn't want anyone going after her, he SHOULDN'T HAVE LEFT HER!!!
I am going to talk to him. Tomorrow actually. Since we both go the same church :l
ReplyDeletehopefully he wants to talk too. But if not, oh well.
And I agree with you on the closure thing. I always make sure I put my part into trying for some.
And also, who cares if my friend dumped her. He still did the crappy thing and went and made out with her. Without telling the other guy :/
ReplyDeleteAnd just so you know these two guys work together.
And once again I'll say this too.
We were all really good friends. If he wanted to get with her, he should have at least mentioned it to him. Don't ya think?? Since we are all really good friends??
:l
this guy, that guy, this girl, that girl....let people worry about their own drama. sure, try to make things right with your friend but don't worry about other people's issues.
ReplyDeleteIf ya'll were all really good friends, it is the right and considerate thing to do to talk about what's going on regarding ex's and such. I challenge you though, to look deeper into the situation. What if both parties got caught up in the moment. Sure it happened, they made out. I doubt seriously this guy wanted to get with her. From what i've been reading and such, it seems like you mostly don't hang with those kinds of people.
ReplyDeleteIf you'll allow me to get religious, I'd like to share with you something about what you should in this, assuming you are a born again believer and church going individual. It goes back to the golden rule- love thy neighbor as thyself. Another quote, "He who is without sin, cast the first stone." I challenge you to look into yourself and see what you may have done. Not to sound pompous and arrogant, but if the first answer that pops into your head is "I would never do that." I'm afraid you're mistaken, it's an issue of pride that leads you to that answer.
Look inside yourself man, ask your friend forgiveness for passing judgement onto him and the accusations you've mentioned because, quite honestly, I'm not quite so sure you tried all you could in getting hold of him before seeing him in person like you've mentioned above. All it takes is a bold step from one person to mend things, and the other will follow suite with an appropriate apology. The challenge though, are you willing to make that first step?
P.s. It may have been a crappy thing, but honestly, as guys, who would actually go and ask a girls ex "hey, can I go make out with your ex?" or if after the fact "Hey, I made out with your ex...." Call me a douche, but I believe that if the couple were still dating and he did that, it would warrant this kind of drama. But like we've clearly stated, they're not together. Each individual shouldn't feel any loyalty to the other party, especially the one who got hurt. Even if they both were rebounding, we all have different ways of doing so when/if that time comes around.
ReplyDeleteClosure is always a good thing. Always. I'm glad we're on the same page with that. I understand that what this guy did is a crappy thing as you view it, but I ask you to do another thing. Take a look at yourself and see if you would do the same thing in the same situation. Quite frankly, I feel that if the whole "I wouldn't do that" mentality comes to play, I feel that you're grossly mistaken. That may seem crazy but here me out. That whole mindset comes from a thing called, pride. That nasty disgusting thing called pride. Instead of being quick to judge others in a situation, see what you would do first and then make your ruling whether it be to actually be pissed off at them, or let it slide. Either way, talking to the source directly is the best thing. If you don't get the true facts, you'll just let your emotions run all over the place and you'll never forgive them. I'm hoping you can somehow find it in you to forgive this guy. That's what true friends do. They forgive each other- you don't have to forget it happened, just forgive them. Life is a lot simpler that way.
ReplyDeletewell...i already talked to the guy in person...and he admitted he did wrong. but its ok now.
ReplyDeleteAre you effing kidding guys?!? Why are you guys attacking Luis? He did nothing wrong... He is mad because one of his best friends betrayed his trust and the trust of one of their closest friends. He shouldn't do ANYTHING with his friends ex, if he cherishes their friendship. Bros before (obvious) Ho's! Come on people! Think about it... You and your significant other break up... then one of your close friends moves in and tries to rebound with her/him.... Who's in the wrong?.. You?... NO!... Your friend who is upset with you about it? (Luis) NO!!!.. It's the person who is moving in on restricted territory! Seriously! What is wrong with people today!? Don't attack luis for no reason.. he's upset because his friend is basically throwing a friendship away for a girl he barely even knows! Even if she isn't a skank (which i doubt) it's still messed up.... They only way this would be even remotely alright is if the rebound friend asked the other friend if it was ok if he dated her... THATS IT.....
ReplyDeleteAll I have to say is that he obviously doesn't care enough about his friend for his feelings to matter. He is just thinking with his head... and not his visible one...
Leave Luis out of this.
And I hope you guys treat your friends better than this.
:D thank you person who is smarter than everyone else who posted comments on here!!!!
ReplyDeleteYou just straight T-Bagged them!!
After owning them with a no scope snipe!!!
:D
I don't feel luis is in the wrong, I feel he is justified, but seriously, take two steps back, and examine your own self before you start nosing into others lives. That's essentially what I was getting at.
ReplyDeletePs- don't make a title like "smarter than everyone else who commented on this" It gives the impression that you are "holy-er than thou." No one likes those kinds of people.
Is that better? :) and seriously... He is justified, I agree... but he isn't nosing in on other people's lives... He is caught in the middle... They are both his friends... and they both go to him when they need someone to talk to, it seems.. so he is caught in the middle... but i do seriously think he has all the right to say everything he has said... especially when his friend did that without remorse.
ReplyDeleteAnd what would be the point of examining yourself? This has nothing to do with Luis... minus the fact that he is caught up in the middle of it.